15 Ways to my Heart

1. Teach Me Something
I want to learn. Being knowledgable about something makes you interesting, and being part of something you love matters to me. Teach me something practical, scientific, artsy, or a skill- whatever it is, I want to learn. Your taking the time to show and explain what you know and love is an invaluable investment and proves to me that you value a shared world between us

2. Learn Something With Me
Exploring this world together is bound to strengthen our relationship and will create shared ground in new, refreshing places.

3. Be Really Passionate About Something That Matters
Show me that you are invested in your world and community at least in terms with the amount of thought you put in to it. Bonus points if you are actively involved in said passion.

3.2 Be Equally Passionate About Things That Don't Matter
ie. absurdly overlooked movies, rootbeer shakes, sports, your favorite band
This shows me that your are also involved in the simple things, perhaps hilariously so. If you can defend the merit of the last Star Wars movies or riding your bike in the rain, you have won me over. Whatever it is that you really really like or adamantly despise- please, indulge me in explanation, never hide it from me. This makes you an individual.

4. Have Limited (Preferably zero) Enemies or Other Bad Relationships
Bad relationships should be fixed or extinguished, at least in cases outside of the family. Having multiple enemies is a red flag- it indicates to me that there is something about you that either chooses to hate, or forces others to hate you.

5. Be Less Critical, Avoid Bitterness
Life is too short. Don't be that person.

6. Don't Treat Me Like a Princess
I can handle my own. I am happier being treated as an equal than pampered like a princess. You did not conquer me, you do not own me, and you haven't rescued me. I am a self-sufficient loving human, and would rather be treated as such. "Just girly things" are cliches, and I'd rather not be one myself. You are not my knight in shining armour, you are likely more than that- I value you for who you are, not your rank and ability to save me from whatever my feeble woman heart couldn't bear.

7. Recommend Things/ Friends to Me
I am always up for new material and making friends. Recommendations prove to me that you have some concept of who I am.

8. Give Board Games a Shot
No, not Clue and Monopoly. Family board games do not count.

10. Have an Open Mind and Palate
There is so much to try and consider, wouldn't you agree? Enjoy more than what is in your backyard, see the value in something you've never tried before, or an idea you'd never considered.

11. Change My Mind About Something
Propose an idea to me and show me how it might be better than my own. If you've changed my mind, your fingerprint will always be on that new opinion I have, and wherever I may bring it whether it is changed again or not, a part of you sticks with me.

12. Get Me Out of the House
I am not a homebody by any means, but any excuse to get out there is a good one!

13. Give Me The Opportunity to Integrate in to Your Social Life
Do not sepperate me from your other friends. If I can't come to "bro night" even if I enjoy the activity, this tells me that you are all either complaining about me, or having discussions that would offend me.
Give me the opportunity to become part of your community and circles, I do not want to just be a name, and I love meeting new people.

14. Invest in Fiction
Because what is the point of all these amazing stories, movies, shows, and games if you don't invest in them? So much work was put in to this art, take the time to appreciate them. It is not all just special affects and explosions.

15. Introduce Me To A New Hobby, Place, or Activity
Finding something fun to do together is great, and I get back to my first point- I want to experience life with you. Taking an active role in leading the way and following through is much appreciated.

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